Nanny Probs 02: Letting Go and Keeping in Touch

    Hi everyone! Lauren here with another semi-long rambling ‘nanny experience’ post. I recently got to go see one of my first families that I worked for a few weeks back and it made me realize the importance of keeping in touch especially when you have a deep bond with the kids you’re watching. 

    Being a nanny i’ve found that the most difficult part of the job is building a healthy, open relationship with the parents and keeping that warm energy going after having to leave. Having to leave a family is never easy whether it be moving, it not being the right fit any more or even having the kids grow up to move on and after building that attachment it’s very stressful to have to say goodbye. Working with these families week to week you’re entire routine, for me anyway, is based around when you’re going to see them and what you’re going to do when you see them next. This job is different from an office where you leave for the day and works on the table, working with kids you go home thinking about how the day went, looking at pictures and feeling like you’ve had a full day of adventure. Being a nanny is really rewarding and addicting that way. No other job seems as appealing right now for melike the one I have where I can go to the zoo and go jump on the trampoline for a few hours each day. Back to the point.

 It’s very easy to break those lines of communication with the families after leaving especially if there were any negative feelings when you had to leave. Again, this isn’t a regular job where you’re leaving an office and someone will be right back in to replace you. You’re leaving those kids that you built a bond with and share memories with. When I had to leave my first family the boys were one and a half years old when I started they were only 6 months, maybe a little younger than that. My situation at that job changed a lot and I was no longer able to work there no matter how much I wanted to. 

The time leading up to my final day there I was really feeling the stress of my situation and was ready to move on until the day came. That’s when it hit me that this was it. Seeing those kids reach new milestones and learn new things was over. I was no longer going to wake up thinking about what we would learn about today or where we would go or see them smile with breakfast in their mouths when I walked into the kitchen to tell them good morning. I felt regretful that I couldn’t make this situation work and regretful that this was my last day and there was no going back this was it. It was an awful feeling to want to make something work and after thinking about it from every angle this was the best outcome. 

That was when I told myself I absolutely had to keep in touch and make myself keep in contact with the parents especially if I ever wanted to be able to go back and see how the boys were growing and learning. I’m not the world’s most social person and i’m probably the world’s worst texter but forcing myself to put effort in during the holidays and birthdays and even just regular check ups and to always respond to whatever the parents message to me has kept our relationship friendly and warm which i’m thankful for. It’s great for if I ever have a free day to be able to ask to see the boys and it not be completely awkward when I go over there and I get to see pictures of the boys as they grow older. It’s not the same of course as going on a daily basis but i’m still always grateful for update pictures and hearing about what they’ve been up to now. Do they have any idea who I am? Most likely not BUT that will not stop me from running up to them and squeezing them like crazy.